Strip Talk #22: No fat-shaming allowed of any kind

Lyndsey-2013-cutout-onlineLet’s be real for a moment: I am what you would call a fat girl. I’ve been fairly over­weight for a large por­tion of my adult life. It’s noth­ing I don’t already know and it’s noth­ing that I haven’t tried to fix. That doesn’t seem to stop my sur­viv­ing par­ent from attempt­ing to fat shame me every time I call him out for being a jerk­hole. That glimpse inside my hec­tic and drama-filled home life should let you know how I feel about oth­ers fat-shaming oth­ers. And, let’s get down to the nitty gritty about things: I can’t stand women down­grad­ing and fat-shaming each other.

Uni­ver­sally, I can’t stand women going against each other. Real talk: We don’t exactly have the best stand­ing in the species, whether it’s from the orig­i­nal sin still being used against us (really, though? It’s been eons upon eons. Some folks really need to let things go), or that it’s still assumed that we’re dumb and can’t fend for our­selves when we clearly have intel­li­gence, there’s still a stigma attached to being a woman. So, really, we need all the help we can get start­ing with our own side of the species step­ping up to sup­port each other. But what do we get? “She looks like a beached whale.” “She shouldn’t be into that weird stuff like cos­play­ing.” “She’s way too weird for any man to really get involved with her.”

Hav­ing heard the major­ity of that fool­ish­ness from my own side of things, and specif­i­cally from black women, you’d think I’d be used to it by now, but I’m not. It never ceases to amaze me how many peo­ple — espe­cially black peo­ple — will throw stones and not get the full extent of being dif­fer­ent. I was born dif­fer­ent. The moment I came into the world, I was expected to uti­lize my intel­li­gence, and lever­age the fact that I could do what­ever I wanted and be what­ever I wanted. I was encour­aged to have dif­fer­ent inter­ests and to not be so iso­lated and into my own self. So, when I devel­oped an inter­est in other cul­tures besides my own (I do still have nation­al­is­tic black pride, by the way), it came as no shock to any­one who knew me well. I know bet­ter than to ever fat shame any­one, let alone other cos­play­ers and let alone women. It doesn’t mat­ter if you’re a big girl like me or rail thin; do you and keep it moving.

Lyn­d­sey Hicks is editor-in-chief of Gam­ing Insur­rec­tion. She can be reached by email at

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